Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | November 2, 2014

All purpose EFT Tapping Script


  • Even though I have this specific problem or challenge, ________________________ , I accept myself.
  • Even though I may or may not be totally consciously aware of what is behind this specific problem, I accept myself.+
  • Even though there may be one, two or many conscious or subconscious reasons for having or keeping this problem, I accept myself.**
  • Even though I may be holding this problem in some part of my body, I accept myself.+
  • Even though there may be several parts to this specific problem, I accept myself.**

+ If known, add transcript sentences as appropriate.
**Include as many known reasons or parts as possible using separate transcript sentences.

  • Tap through each of the above sentences using the Karate chop point or the sore point, and repeat the sentence three times.
    Then tap through the series of short-cut EFT points-
    Top of the head,
    between the eyebrows,
    sides of the eyes,
    under the eyes,
    under the nose,
    under the lips,
    under the arms, at least twice. (Typically, we tap each point as we go through the series about 7 or 8 times.)

Check out EFT in a nutshell if you need a refresher on EFT.http://wp.me/pFoLU-cR

Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | June 15, 2014

Dealing with Multiple Health Issues


A dear ffriend has recently been experiencing several minor but annoying health concerns.  Her doctor has recently informed her that she has osteoporosis in her hip and spine.  She also has early osteoarthritis.  She suffers from acid reflux and gallbladder polyps.  Naturally, she has worries about all of these concerns, some more than others.

Besides following her doctor’s advice, I have suggested the following EFT affirmations.

  • Even though I have acid reflux, I accept myself.
  • Even though I have been diagnosed with osteoporosis, I accept myself.
  • Even though I am worried about my softening bones, I accept myself.
  • Even though I haven’t exercised as much as I should have to prevent osteoporosis, I accept myself.
  • Even though I have beginning osteoarthritis, I accept myself.
  • Even though I am getting older and my body seems to be falling apart, I accept myself. I fogive my body for showing the signs of age.
  • Even though I have gallbladder polyps and I am not sure how this affects me, I accept myself.

I gave her this short list to go over and practice on a daily basis and we shall see how it goes.  So far she has reported that going through the process has made her feel more relaxed and less worried, so I think its already shown benefits.

 

Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | January 25, 2014

EFT continues to help – A testimonial


If you are a regular reader of my blog or web site you will recognize the name Arum. She has been a client of mine since the early days of the EFT forum and we continue to be in touch. The following is excerpted from an email she recently sent me. She brings out some important points. One is that sometimes when our pains go away, we don’t necessarily notice right away. Gary Craig calls this the ‘apex effect. With EFT, it feels like we didn’t have the problem in the first place. Read Arum’s email here:

    Hi Mildred,
    While looking over some of my old emails, there was a lot of comments regarding the burning issue I had and my hip problem. The change has  been phenomenal. Whereas before the burning sensation almost drove me insane, this morning I noticed it wasn’t there at all. It doesn’t seem to be in my body to where it can even be noticed. Don’t you think that’s odd? And as for my hip, my goodness girl it seems like a miracle. I can sleep on my right side, and this morning when my husband put his arm across me, it didn’t hurt at all. So many of the aches and pains I had are just gone.
    Do you know what I think? When we first start tapping it’s like cleaning out a closet, it gets clean gradually. One gets their mind on something else, and all at once they look up and the closet is clean. My body seemed to heal while I wasn’t noticing.
    EFT continues to amaze me. Yet there is no one to share my amazement with. When I look back to where I was a few years ago, I’m so grateful. Although there are so many negative things we could focus on, if we just focus on the good things, our life will be full. Thank you for helping me get here. 🙂 Hugs and a smile, Arum
Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | December 31, 2013

2013 in review


The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 3,000 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 50 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | December 17, 2013

-How Can I Learn EFT? Updated


Much has changed in EFT since I last answered this question. Gary Craig, Founder of EFT, has given the term EFT to the public domain and this means that there are all kinds of EFT out there without any standardization.  Therefore Gary Craig, in response to this situation has come up with two terms, “Gary’s Official EFT(c)” and “Official EFT(c)”. These represent what Gary Craig means when he discusses EFT. You can learn about this in more  depth by clicking on the following link, to go to the Official EFT Tutorial.  http://www.emofree.com/EFT/?aft=908

Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | October 10, 2013

Police integrity not always appreciated within the force


In Edmonton where I live, there have been several publicized incidents involving police officers who have gone beyond their duty as arresting officers to mete out beatings, and worse, in their own brand of justice.

No one can argue that a police officers’ job is easy.   On a daily basis, policemen deal with the worst type of people in society: pedophiles, drug dealers, thieves, pimps, murderers and sociopaths of every stripe.

Police officers see the worst of what society has to offer, and it must be difficult under these circumstances not to become jaded, cynical, and even traumatized, by the daily human trail of filth that an officer encounters.

It must be discouraging to arrest a drug dealer or a pimp, only to find them out on bail or released after a laughably short sentence. However, it is not my purpose here to address the systemic faults in the Alberta justice system.

My concern today is with a particular police officer, Derek Huff, who tried within his department to take a stand, showing integrity against a code of silence that law enforcement officers follow.   You can read about what  Derek Huff did by googling his name, “Derek Huff” and “police brutality”. Or try this link:  http://www.edmontonjournal.com/news/Brutality+allegation+shows+police+transparency+always+simple/9004613/story.html

I would like to address this article to Derek Huff , who feeling betrayed by his coworkers is now suffering PTSD because of the treatment he received in response to his attempt to do the right thing, not the easy thing.

Derek, take a deep breath and notice how you feel in your body.  Are you tense? Do you have pain in your neck or shoulders? Just notice this and start by tapping the side of your hand and saying each sentence below three times. Then tap through the acupressure points described in EFT in a nutshell.

  • Even though my dream job fell to tatters, I accept myself.
  • Even though  I and my partner saw three fellow police officers punching and kicking a drug dealer in a planned beating and we wanted to do the right thing, and were unsuccessful, I accept myself.
  • Even though I, Derek, took these allegations to my superior officers, I accept myself.
  • Even though my complaints went nowhere, I accept myself.
  • Even though I was branded a rat, I accept myself.
  • Even though I feel betrayed by my coworkers and my supervisors, I accept myself.
  • Even though I felt threatened and bullied for reporting wrongdoing, I accept myself.
  • Even though didn’t know what to do after the incident, I accept myself.
  • Even though my partner and I were in a no-win situation, I accept myself.
  • Even though I am struggling with depression because of the bullying and intimidation I’ve gone through, I accept myself.
  • Even though I had to go on stress leave, and eventually quit my job, I accept myself.
  • Even though it may be that the problem I brought forward is even bigger that I anticipated, I accept myself.

If you are not Derek, please consider doing some surrogate EFT for him – I’m sure he could use the help.  We, the public, need to show our support for courageous men and women who stand up against injustice even at great personal cost.  Derek Huff, you have my appreciation and admiration.

Now take another deep breath and see how you feel.  If you were tapping the points , you may feel a little lighter in your body.  Maybe your breath is a little fuller or easier. This is how EFT works and how it can help you.

Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | October 4, 2013

Book Review of “When Heaven Comes…into the Classroom”


This is a video review of a book by my friend Julia Kopala, a former teacher and practicing Reiki Master. Julia wrote a book about her experiences bringing complementary health to the classroom. Julia was a pioneer in bringing together Eastern and Western complementary therapies to an educational setting. This book is aimed at parents, educators, counselors and anyone interested in integrating the wisdom of complementary therapies into the classroom.

Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | May 30, 2013

Making Marriage Work Part 2: Avoid Criticism


The  book, “The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work”, lists four  indicators that a marriage is in trouble, and these are called in the book, “the four horseman of the apocalypse”, or just “the four horsemen” for short. These four sign posts or horsemen are  criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Today, I will discuss the first of these, criticism.

The authors differentiate between complaint and criticism. Complaint, they say, addresses the action of the person that upsets you, while criticism says something global about the other person’s character or personality. Blame and character assassination are forms of criticism. If you have any questions about the difference between complaint and criticism, I highly recommend you read the book wherein numerous examples are described (p.28). In the meantime, here are some sentences that my clients with complaints about their spouses have found helpful.

  • Even though my spouse is completely different than I am and doesn’t do things the way I would do them, I accept myself.
  • Even though it really bugs me when my spouse does/does not _________________  , I accept myself. (Fill in the blank  as often as necessary.)
  • Even though I was initially attracted to my spouse because he or she was so different than I was, I accept myself.
  • Even though I wish my spouse would do things  or say things just the way I do, I accept myself.
  • Even though my spouse is very different than me, and I wish she or he would be just like me, I accept myself.
  • Even though I would be very bored being married to someone just like me, I accept myself.
  • Even though I am now trying to turn my spouse into another person just like me, I accept myself.
  • Even though I am easy to get along with but my spouse is difficult to understand, I accept myself.
  • Even though I will never be able to turn my spouse into another me and that would be boring anyway, I accept myself.
  • Even though some of the characteristics that of my spouse I was most attracted to at the beginning are those that I just can’t stand now, I accept myself.
  • Even though I have a tendency to turn my complaints about behavior into criticism that insinuates a character flaw, I accept myself and I choose to be more careful.
  • Even though I’ve married my exact opposite and now I want someone just like me, I accept myself anyway.
  • Even though I may have unresolved conflicts with one of my parents that I am working through using my spouse as a surrogate, I accept myself.
  • Even though my spouse is possibly just like /is not anything like my mom/my dad, I accept myself anyway.
  • Even though I may still have some issues with my same sex and/or opposite sex parent that I am trying to resolve with my spouse, I accept myself.

Do you have an issue you would like help with? I invite you to send me an issue you have with someone in your life, not necessarily your spouse. I will post some of the most interesting ones here and provide some tapping sentences to work on with EFT. Click on the EFT-in-a-nutshell link if you are unfamiliar with EFT.

Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | May 30, 2013

Making Marriage Work Part 3: Avoid Contempt


According to the authors of “The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work”, sneering, eye rolling, hostile humor, name-calling, belligerence. and mockery are all forms of contempt.  All are to be avoided in a healthy relationship.Here are some sentences to help you if you are guilty of showing contempt to your spouse:
Even though I have the habit of turning my complaints into criticisms, I accept myself.
Even though I have been sarcastic to my spouse recently/many times/several times, I accept myself.
Even though I roll my eyes when my spouse says something I disagree with, I accept myself.
Even though I learned how to treat my spouse by watching my parents interact, I accept myself.
Even though my father/mother was/parents were disrespectful to each other / to me , I accept myself.
Even though I have disrespectful names for my spouse, I accept myself.
Even though I have been belligerent or threatening to my spouse, I accept myself.
Even though I have made many mistakes in my relationship, I accept myself.
Even though I have treated my spouse badly, I accept myself.
Even though I have abused  the person I most depend on and love, I accept myself.
Even though I have shown contempt to my spouse, I accept myself and I forgive myself. I chosse to change my behavior and become a better spouse.
Here are some sentences to help you if your spouse shows contempt to you:
Even though my spouse has the habit of turning complaints into criticisms, I accept myself.
Even though my spouse has been sarcastic to me recently/many times/several times, I accept myself.
Even though my spouse rolls her/her eyes when I say something he/she disagrees with, I accept myself.
Even though my spouse has learned how to treat me by watching his/her parents interact, I accept myself.
Even though my spouse`s father/mother was/parents were disrespectful to each other /  him/her , I accept myself.
Even though my spouse has disrespectful names for me, I accept myself.
Even though my spouse has been belligerent or threatening to me, I accept myself.
Even though my spouse has made many mistakes in our relationship, I accept myself and I forgive my spouse.
Even though my spouse has treated me badly, I accept myself.
Even though my spouse has abused the person he/she most depends on and loves, I accept myself.
Even though my spouse has shown contempt to me, I accept myself. I choose to let my spouse know that I will no longer tolerate this treatment and will remove myself from my spouse`s presence for set amounts of time. I let my spouse know the reason for my removal and the amount of time I will be gone.
Posted by: Mildred's eftedmonton Blog | May 18, 2013

“The Seven Principles for making Marriage Work” and EFT, Part 1


I recently came across a valuable research-based text on marriage by John H. Gottman, PH.D., and Nan Silver, “The Seven Principles for making Marriage Work”.  The book discusses 6 signs that a marriage will not work out. Today I’m going to talk about the first sign. a harsh argument start up.

If a partner becomes negative and accusatory, with criticism or sarcasm in the first 3 minutes of a 15-minute interaction, things will not go well.

If you are that person sabotaging your own marriage, here are some sentences to practice EFT on:

  • Even though I start my arguments aggressively, I accept myself.
  • Even though my spouse also starts arguments aggressively, I accept myself.
  • Even though I can be quite sarcastic to my spouse, I accept myself.
  • Even though my spouse can also be quite sarcastic to me, I accept myself.
  • Even though my sarcasm shows contempt for my partner, I accept myself.
  • Even though I may use a quiet voice to voice my contempt, I accept myself.
  • Even though I blame my spouse for any issue that comes up, I accept myself.
  • Even though criticism and blame are not useful tools when trying to resolve issues in my marriage,I accept myself.
  • Even though part of me needs to find a scapegoat for our problems and that will make me feel better, I  accept myself.
  • Even though I feel guilty for not having a perfect marriage I accept myself.
  • Even though  I need to blame someone in order to feel better about my troubled marriage, I accept myself.
  • Even though our problems are all my spouses fault, I accept myself.

According to the authors, if you start an interaction with a harsh beginning, you are dooming it to failure.  So learn to be gentle and non-accusatory in your interactions, especially at the beginning. These EFT phrases will help and also help you to feel calm if your spouse starts off aggressively.  Remember to starting tapping the side of the hand as you repeat  each sentence  three times,  and then tap the top of the head, between the eyes, side of the eyes, under the eyes, under the nose, under the mouth,  at the collar bone point,  and under the arms.

check out this link for the second part of this article: http://wp.me/pFoLU-aj

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