Nicole asks a question about exactly how to use surrogate EFT, particularly in phrasing.

Check out more detailed information about surrogate tapping here.

Surrogate EFT for Haiti

Many of us are keeping up with the news about Haiti and its dire situation following a massive earthquake and also now a massive aftershock. We may feel some upset about the situation there, or even feel guilt over our own comparative fortune. After sending our financial donations, we can address our own feelings of helplessness and distress over the suffering using EFT. Here are some sentences to tap to:

• Even though I feel helpless and useless as I watch news reports of the horrible conditions of Haitians, I accept myself.
• Even though I feel guilty for my own good fortune in living where I live in comfort, safety and comparative wealth, I accept myself.
• Even though Haiti has been devastated by a strong earth quake, and I feel helpless, I accept myself.
• Even though I should /might/ could do more than I have done, I accept myself.

We can also send them our prayers and surrogate EFT. In order to guide you in some surrogate EFT, I have provided a script below. I suggest tapping the karate chop point on the side of your palm and saying:

• Even though we, the people of Haiti, have been devastated by a strong earth quake, we accept ourselves.
• Even though we, the people of Haiti, should /might/ could do more than we have done to help ourselves, we accept ourselves.
• Even though there is disorder and panic everywhere, we accept ourselves.
• Even though resources are not being distributed as fast as they are needed, we accept ourselves and we choose to do the best that we can, under the circumstances.
• Even though everything is chaotic; we, the people of Haiti, accept ourselves.
• Even though food and water are not being distributed fairly and quickly, we, the people of Haiti, accept ourselves, we are doing the best we can.
• Even though there are not enough medical resources for all the injuries of the Haitians, we accept ourselves, anyway.

I apologize if the following explanation is a bit technical. Around the same time that I discovered EFT, my cancer oncologist found that my thyroglobulin levels were high, indicating a recurrence of thyroid cancer (thyroglobulin (Tg) is well-identified as a tumour marker). The usual treatment for this is to inject the patient- me – with radioactive iodine, taking advantage of iodine’s tendency to seek out thyroid tissue. I was reluctant to use this route as I had had it done a couple of times previously and had suffered some severe depression afterwards. I stalled a bit, and managed to convince my oncologist to do some more tests and to wait. When I went back six months later, the Tg levels had stabilised. Gradually, over the next four years, with me doing EFT on an almost daily basis, my blood tests showed decreasing Tg levels. Recently, my oncologist told me that my intuition had been right to postpone treatment, and that the Tg levels were now negligible. His explanation to me was that ‘obviously’ a previous application of radioactive iodine had been effective.

I smiled at this. The last such treatment had been 14 years prior. Radioactive iodine has a half life of 8 days. This means that every 8 days, it is half strength. In one year it would have divided in half, again and again, more than 45 times. To say it mathematically, it would be 1 divided by 2 to the power of 45 in one year, or 1/ 35,184,372,088,832 times as strong as the original dose. Keep the division going for another 13 years.

Getting back to EFT, I have never actually used EFT on this particular issue. However, I have used EFT on many stressful issues that I believe were behind my cancer recurrence. While never addressing the cancer directly, but using EFT on a daily basis, I believe that I took away the conditions that made cancer possible in my body. I am not saying that I can cure cancer, only that I had cancer, did EFT, and now no longer have it.

Q: I’m a 40 year old male and I was introduced to EFT a couple of years ago but at that time I guess that I didn’t consider that I had issues ??? I half-heartedly tried a few times with some physical discomforts but gave up rapidly.

I am now awake enough to have many reasons to help myself find the real me, I’ve watched all the basic videos, read the manual and a few other pdf’s. I’ve done a half hour session on anger this morning which left me very tired and I had to stop and rest before I could continue watching Gary’s DVD’s. I’ve also made a whole list of things I want to work on with EFT. My father was an alcoholic and I suspect that my mother had some kind of disorder or mental health issue.

I have this question which I didn’t see answered anywhere : How can I be specific about events if there are almost no emotions attached to the few childhood memories that I have ? I have one with sadness and it is as if I’m a spectator for the other ones. Maybe I’m just very out of touch…

This afternoon, as I was watching Gary tap on Veronica for cigarettes on the case histories tape [dvd] and I automatically started crying when the father rape event came up. I have absolutely no memory of such an event in my life but it got me wondering about my own anxiety, anger and other issues (there are many).

Will using EFT on the symptoms that I have now slowly bring up the core issues or memories that I have to be specific about ?

Thanks in advance for your time.

Pierre
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A: This is a good question, Pierre.

Gary Craig says that even if you have no memory of past trauma, you can actually make up events that might have happened, tap for these events and heal from your actual trauma. He discovered this when he found that the psychologists and practitioners he was teaching to use EFT for clients started reporting that a long standing issue, such as chronic knee pain or some other issue was suddenly gone. The only thing they had been doing differently was tapping along to their clients concerns.

Gary called this Borrowing Benefits. You found something in you that was touched when Veronica’s pain over sexual abuse was brought up. It may not have anything to do with sexual abuse in your own case. It may be simply that you reacted emotionally to her trauma – many people do. If it resonated with you, honor that, but don’t go looking for proof of sexual molestation because this may not have happened.

I suggest that you write down as many different emotions as you can and choose a different one every day. Some emotions , like hurt and anger may have more resonance with you, especially at first. Tap around these emotions like so:

Even though I can’t remember anything from my childhood to feel sad about, I accept myself. Even though I had no pets as a child and I wanted a dog, I accept myself. Even though I must have felt sad when my toy broke or my balloon flew away or I lost my favorite action figure, I accept myself. If you start out like this, making things up, some real events may come to mind for you to tap with. If not, stick with the imagined events and be that child experiencing sadness and tapping around anything you can imagine to be sad about- a death of a pet, the loss of a grandparent or friend moving away, etc. Pick another emotion on another day. Repeat.

Mildred

Q: How can I know that I have reduced a problem to zero? When I tap, I feel that the problem has gone away, but when I face the situation again, the bad feelings return.
Darc1,

A: What you are noticing is that new aspects of the problem you thought had been tapped away are coming back.

In my own case, I first had cancer when I was 15, but before this I had radiation, a high dose of x-rays to my neck and ear, when I was only 7 years old. It turned out that the treatment I had at age 7 was responsible for the cancer at age 15.

Naturally, I had some grief over this, even though the cancer is gone now. I would tap for this, but then another day I would be telling the story and I might think about how alone I felt at age 7 to be left by my parents with a bunch of strangers- so I would tap for this. I would be fine for awhile, but then the next time, I would remember the bad feeling that the x-ray machine had given me and how I had really known even back then that it was a bad thing for me, but I had had no choice in the matter- I had done what my mom and the doctors wanted. (More tapping.)

Now I can write about this and feel at peace, but it did take me awhile to unravel all of the different aspects involved. I do not know if I have dealt with everything to do with my getting cancer (3 times in total), with my treatments, my diagnoses, and my recoveries, but if something comes up again, I will take note and spend a bit more time tapping.

Gary Craig makes this analogy. Sometimes we think we have cut down the tree or the forest of our issues, but sometimes another shoot springs up to be dealt with. Eventually the tree, or the whole forest, is gone for good.

As time passes, fewer things come up… be patient and be persistent.

Mildred

I have to say I am shocked  that this is happening so soon. All of us EFT ers will really have to tap about our loss.

Apparently, Gary’s web site is shutting down; the DVD’s won’t be sold any more; the EFT forums will be closed.  Those of you who have been thinking about buying Gary’s DVD’s, now is the time, especially with the Canadian dollar so strong against the American dollar , there really isn’t  a better time than today to do it, at this link  here. Your best deal is to buy all three sets for a 50% discount if you can afford to. They make great Christmas gifts, too.
At the very least, get your free manual download and read how to do EFT here.

If you have decided to put yourself or your child through the flu shot, you can make it easier by using a little EFT.

First deal with any anxieties about the event that you may have. Some examples that come to mind are

• The needle might hurt.
• It may cause a lot of pain.
• There may be an adverse reaction such as swelling, muscle aches, allergic reaction or more.
• You or your child had a bad reaction the last time you had a similar shot.
• You have always been afraid of needles.
• ____________________________________(any other concerns)

So, tapping on the side of first your own hand and then your child’s hand tap for these fears thus :

• Even though the needle might hurt, I accept myself.
• Even though it may cause a lot of pain, I accept myself.
• Even though there may be an adverse reaction such as swelling, muscle aches, allergic reaction or more, I accept myself.
• Even though I  had a bad reaction the last time I had a similar shot, I accept myself.
• Even though I have always been afraid of needles, I accept myself. If you have needle fears check out this article here.
• Even though _______________________________ , I accept myself anyway.

Once you have dealt with any  fears or concern surrounding the actual event, you have tapped for these and are feeling better about the upcoming event, go ahead and get the shot.  If it hurts at all afterwards, if you have swellng or pain afterwards, you can tap for this too.

• Even though my arm really hurts right now, I am a good person. I am just doing the best I can to stay healthy and safe.

Or if all this brought you to the point that you decided against getting the flu shot:

• Even though I’ve decided not to get the flu shot, I accept myself anyway.  I am doing the best I can to stay healthy and safe.

Don’t feel helpless when (your child or) you get a cold or the flu.  Use EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques to deal with symptoms as they come up and to feel empowered instead.

Start by tapping your karate chop point (on the outside edge/little finger side of your hand) and saying

Even though I feel helpless and I don’t know what to do, I accept myself and I know that everything will be okay.

Even though this tapping on the side of my hand might not help me or my child, I accept myself.

Even though I feel like I need to do something fast, I accept myself.

Even though I am in a panic about this, I accept myself and I know that everything will be okay.

Even though I (or my children) have symptoms such as fever, cough, sore throat, muscle aches, joint pain, or weakness, I accept myself and I know that everything will be okay.

Even though my child has gastrointestinal symptoms such as vomiting and diarrhoea, I accept myself and I know that everything will be okay.

Even if I/my child have/has one or more risk factors involved in a severe H1N1 illness..including  __________________(fill in the appropriate categories as listed below):

• Chronic heart disease,
• Diabetes
• immune suppression
• neuromuscular disorders
• blood disorders
• conditions requiring long term ASA (aspirin) treatment
• conditions that compromise ability to breath
• conditions which increase risk of breathing in fluids
• Pregnancy

…I accept myself.

Now tap through all the following points, 7-10 times for each symptom.

So,  say, “this fever” and tap on the top of the head, just below the collar bone, tap the inside and outside of each wrist and each ankle at the area of the ankle bone,as you  repeat the words, “this fever”. Repeat the entire process. on yourself or your child.

Or tap 1) the top of head, 2)inner eyebrow, 3)outer  eye  area, 4)under eye on the eye bone,5) under nose, 6)under chin, 7)under collar bone, and  8)on the torso, under the arms, tapping 7-10 times per area, and going through the points at least twice. Wait 10 minutes, repeat if necessary.  Get immediate medical attention if symptoms worsen.

I recently met a very special girl. I call her a girl, because she is still exploring her place in the world, though truthfully she is a young woman. Why is she special? Well to begin with, she is a survivor. As a young child, she experienced some trauma that eventually took her to a place of addiction.  Knowing  in her heart that life did not have to be the way it was, and searching for solutions brought her to a 12 step program for her multiple addictions.  She received a lot of help from these programs but was stalled on steps 4 to 6.  She needed to work on some of her underlying issues, her past, her present self-hatred, and some other issues. She knew she needed something more. Luckily, her sponsor encouraged her to look to alternative treatments and luckily, EFT kept coming to her attention.

Finally she called me.  Our first session, we dealt with a very traumatic experience and she was able to see herself as an innocent child out of her depth, and not at all to blame for the event.  She was also able to see that she had done the right thing, that the action she had taken to protect herself had been effective.  She was able to change her perception of the traumatic event from being a passive victim to being a strong, effective survivor.  EFT is so effective in helping these re-frames ‘land’ that I am continually amazed at the shifts in perspectives that take place in my clients.

She is a beautiful girl and realizes that she has to take care of her own physical, emotional and mental health  in order to be present for others. At her young age she has learned what many never learn- that we need to take care of ourselves to be effective with others and to take care of other people.   We have seen each other maybe 4 times.  I am amazed at her increased confidence and her energy.  She no longer wears a V for victim on her forehead.  She projects self-confidence.  She has come so far.

I know she is just beginning her journey. There may be times when she needs to come back for some expert help with things. However, she has learned how to use EFT so that she can help herself cope with most of life’s curve balls.

Congratulations, my dear.